“Say Goodbye to Survival Mode” 7-Day Challenge (Days 6 & 7)

I’m so proud of myself, y’all. The fact that I’ve stuck with and completed this challenge shows me that I can get out of survival mode. Before I get into what I’ve learned about myself (and what I failed at), here are the last two days of the challenge:

Day 6 (Sunday)- Find an accountability partner, someone to keep you on task and on track.

My first thought was to ask my husband, but considering he isn’t home half of the year and then on the rig 12 hours a day when he is there, I don’t think he would remember to ask me if I wrote that blog post or got in a workout. I’ll be really honest with y’all: I don’t feel comfortable having an accountability partner. This is my journey and I don’t have any friends that are doing the same. I would feel like a burden asking my already busy friends to badger me about working out and staying on task with my blog and homework.

I’m not saying I won’t decide to get a partner, I’m just saying I don’t have one at the moment.

Day 7 (Monday)- Make a list of things that I love to do. After the list is complete, go back and circle one thing that I can (and will) do today.

This challenge is designed to be a reward for making it through the challenge. We can’t always be organizing, cleaning, cooking, etc. We have to take time for ourselves! Here is the list I came up with:

  • Read
  • Write
  • Crochet
  • Spend time with the kids
  • Watch romantic movies (I’m such a sap)

The great thing about my list is that I’m already writing and I get to spend time with my kids every day. Last night Ashley and I painted wooden ornaments that I picked up from Wal-Mart. We had so much fun that we went back and picked up a few more to do tonight. I wait until Justin is in bed so that Ashley and I can have one-on-one time.

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I’ll let you decide who painted which ornament. 😉

I mention earlier that I failed and something and that was getting up early. I did get up before 7 two mornings in a row, but so did my son. I’m telling you, it’s like he can sense when my feet hit the floor. I can’t exercise or do anything really with Justin walking (Yes, I said walking!) around the house. I think that buying a used pack-n-play might be very helpful in this circumstance and I plan to talk to JR about it once he gets home from this current hitch. Even though I haven’t done well with rising early I have no intentions of giving up.

All in all, I really enjoyed the challenge. I feel like each activity was just the right length; just enough to get you engaged but not too much to bog you down. I’ve learned so much from reading the book (I’ll post a little more about that when I get finished in the next few days) and this challenge. If you haven’t signed up yet, what are you waiting for? Go take the “Say Goodbye to Survival Mode” 7-Day Challenge. I seriously doubt you will regret it. 🙂

Are you taking the challenge? Let me know what you think and how you are doing by commenting below or sending me a tweet

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“Say Goodbye to Survival Mode” 7-Day Challenge (Day 4 and 5)

Day 4 (Friday)- Gain an extra 15 minutes. The first part of the challenge is to write down a list of things I want to get done in list of priority. Then, set a timer for 15 minutes, turn off all distractions and focus on chipping away at goals. Here is what I came up with. (I tried to stick to goals that I could actually do in 15 minutes)

  • Plan next blog post
  • Write two discussion board posts for class
  • Post in learning team forum
  • Read one chapter of any book

I picked “any book” because I have four or five lying around that I’ve been meaning to read. It took two 15 minute sessions, but I got the first three done. Hey, can’t win ’em all! I wasn’t distraction-free either since my daughter refuses to take naps. It was refreshing to have my homework completed before dinner time. I’m usually up late trying to get my thoughts together for those posts. Focusing on nothing but them for a period of time helped me to get them knocked out.

Day 5 (Saturday)- De-clutter one area of your home. It can be a closet, cabinet, or drawer. I’ve followed several clutter related challenges from Crystal’s blog, Money Saving Mom, and they have helped me tremendously. Just ask my mom what my very first apartment (after getting married) looked like. I guess the older I get, the more open I am to getting rid of things I’ve had since high school or college.

For this challenge, I had the perfect place in mind: the dining room table. I admit, we don’t eat at our table unless there is a gathering at our home. Since we had an early Thanksgiving  on Sunday you’d think that my table would still be clear. HAH! You, my friend, are sorely mistaken.

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My messy table. I either need less stuff or a bigger house. I’m gonna go with option 2. 

I’m going to be honest; there aren’t many places to put stuff in our house. For a family of four with three dogs, our barely 1000 sq. ft. house just isn’t cutting it. Anyway, since I have company coming over for a crochet date (Hi, Erika!) I decided this was the area to tackle.

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My clean-ish table. I don’t have a desk so I use the table as my work space (when I’m not on the couch). I also didn’t put my yarn bag away since I’ll be crocheting tonight.

Y’all, it took me less than 15 minutes to put everything in its place and I feel so much better. It’s just a table, but it’s no longer in my line of sight and adding to my stress.

Are you taking the 7-day challenge? I’d love to hear how you are doing! Comment below or send me a tweet!

 

 

I just remembered…

…that this blog used to be on Blogger and that I never figured out how to merge my old posts with my WordPress account. If you are interested in reading my older posts, you can go here. 🙂 One day, I will figure out how to merge the two. Today is not that day. Hah!

“Say Goodbye to Survival Mode” 7-Day Challenge (Days 1-3)

Y’all, I am so excited. I was chosen, along with others, to be on the launch team for Crystal Paine’s new book, “Say Goodbye to Survival Mode”. If you don’t know who Crystal Paine is then you really need to check out  her site, Money Saving Mom. I absolutely adore Crystal and the work that she does. She’s pretty much my idol! Being a part of the launch team means that I get to read an advance copy of the book and I just have to say that this book is a God send. One of the things that I’ve always liked about Crystal is her ability to take what seems impossible possible once more. She does this by helping her readers to break goals and dreams into small, manageable pieces. Once you know where you are going, you have to break down the steps needed to get there!

For the last year I have felt that I am barely surviving while things I want to do have fallen by the wayside. One of those things is this blog. I always tell myself that I will make time to write and then end up forgetting about it. I don’t even have the goal to make money off of my writing anymore. I just want to reach people.

Anyway, part of the roll out for her new book is a free 7-day challenge that you can sign up for. The challenges for each day are taken right from the book. I strongly encourage all of you to sign up.

Here are the challenges that I have completed so far:

Day 1 (Tuesday): Make a list of everything that I need to do for Wednesday. The twist is that I had to automatically decide which two I would cross off. The entire exercise is to teach you that you have to say “No” to somethings if you want to lead a balanced life. Here is a picture of my to-do list (It’s kind of blurry so I also added a typed list under the picture):

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  • Wake up, read bible, pray
  • Wash dishes
  • Mop floors
  • Put out recycling
  • Write blog post
  • Write ROW post- PW Scones
  • Finish “Survival Mode”
  • Exercise
  • Clean out the car
  • Get familiar with curriculum for Sunday
  • Start crochet project
  • Homework
  • Post Office
  • Trash dump
  • Library

I forgot to take the picture until after I had already started completing items on the list. The two items I crossed off automatically were “start crochet project” and “clean out car”. Those were things that I would love to get knocked out but that I didn’t need to kill myself to get done.

Day 2 (Wednesday): Take ten minutes and come up with a list of innate gifts, talents and abilities. Then take ten minutes and write down what I like, admire, and appreciate about myself. Here is what I came up with:

  • Writing
  • Working with kids
  • Singing (not like star quality, but I’m not too shabby)
  • Leadership
  • Team player
  • Dedicated
  • Hardworking

It feels weird to sit and think about the good when I’m usually focused on things I don’t do well.

Day 3 (Thursday): Create my ideal morning routine.

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If it’s blurry to you it says:

  • Wake up NLT (no later than) 6:15 a.m.
  • Exercise- 30 mins
  • Shower- 15 mins
  • Coffee/Bible- 30 mins

I know that I’m more productive when I can get up before the kiddos wake. My problem is that I can never seem to get in bed at a decent time. Justin also still wakes up anywhere from 1 to 2 times a night so I don’t get much non-interrupted sleep. I also sometimes feel like I neglect one of the most important things and that’s my physical and spiritual health. I need to start taking care of me so that I’m not so burnt out all of the time.

In a few days I’ll post again with days 4 & 5 of the challenge along with an update on how I’m doing with getting up earlier.

Do you plan to sign up for the challenge? Let me know how you do and what you think by commenting below or sending me a tweet!

Blended Families

My latest Real Oilfield Wives post is about celebrating holidays as a blended family. I describe how my family helped us celebrate an early Thanksgiving since JR will be on the rig next week. I know that a lot of families in the oilfield- in any field- eventually deal with divorce, re-marriage, step-children, etc. In an ideal world, divorce wouldn’t happen and families would stay hole. In a perfect world, domestic violence, abuse, infidelity (you get the idea), would never happen. I don’t have stats on how blended families get along, but I’ve personally been witness to some sticky and uncomfortable situations (not involving my own family). 

It is my belief that our children’s relationships can mirror our own if we are not careful. If you are divorced, I urge you to try to contain your bad thoughts and keep wayward comments away from the ears of your children. You don’t have to like your (or your current spouse’s) ex, but you do have a responsibility to your children. Divorce is already hard enough for a child to endure, don’t add more negativity to the mix. 

I’d love to hear your thoughts on this topic. Leave a comment below or send me a tweet